LOOKING FOR ADVICE...How do I get a friend to leave my house when it's time to put kids to bed!?

I have this friend-we have known eachother forever and have kids about the same age...I like seeing her but she shows up unannounced and then WON'T go home! I can say, well, it's time to put the kids to bed...give them a bath...Have the kids pick up all the toys...she knows what time I put them to bed and it just seems like I can't get her to leave!!! And I really dont like the unannounced visits! To make it worse, she doesn't like my dog and her daughter can be mean to my daughter and it is not addressed properly..we live right next to eachother so it's not like i can pretend I'm not home...i hate being rude but feel she is being extremely rude by not taking the hint thAT it's time to leave. HELPLOOKING FOR ADVICE...How do I get a friend to leave my house when it's time to put kids to bed!?
I think that's the problem, stop giving 'hints' and just tell her straight up. Believe it or not, some people really can't tell when you're trying to clue them in to something, you just gotta tell them what's up. It's like dealing with men. They don't get the 'hint' that you want to spend time together by you snuggling up with him on the couch and staring at him, you have to tell him what you want. So think of your relationship with your friend as a relationship with your man, just tell her exactly what you're thinking. Aside from that, even though she is your friend it is very rude of her to show up unannounced. My best friend of 13 years would never drop by unannounced.LOOKING FOR ADVICE...How do I get a friend to leave my house when it's time to put kids to bed!?
teach your children to start acting up in front of her when its bedtime(they will love this, i bet!) like fighting with each other or whatever. then tell her, oh geez they just fall apart when they start to get tired, i need to get them ready to go to bed. its been so nice having you over, lets PLAN to do it again sometime soon!
tell her the truth


if she not leaving...she's not ur friend
Just fake her out -by telling her all of you are going to bed at the same time your kids do cause you got to get up extra early from now on - tell her you are volunteering in the mornings somewhere, or if you work tell her your hours changed or just tell her anything like you want to get up early cause you go for walks in the mornings now or what ever you can think of -then start turning out lights in front of her and turn off the TV - and yawn ALOT in front of her - If she has any sense she will leave - when she gets to her car turn out the poarch light then when you see she has left -go back to doing what you normally do while the kids are sleeping -which I assume is jumping on the internet !! LOL!!! - But on the other hand if you dont want to be foney - just tell her you really need the time when your kids are getting ready for bed to have your privacy so you can unwind at the end of the day - tell her its nothing personal -its just the way you like to do things and its like a routine -if it gets thrown off the whole next day will get thrown off and it works best for you %26amp; your kids if you stick to a schedule - hopefully if you explain that to her she will understand and start to leave when bedtime comes - Good luck !!! hope this helps!!!
A 12 gauge sot gun sometimes works wonders !!!
part of the problem is that she wants to have visiting time with you. she's waiting until your kids go to bed so she can be with you.


if you prefer to have privacy and time alone/with partner after the children have gone to bed, you have to have a private talk with her to set out your point of view.


she has fallen into the habit of spending a lot of time at your place in the evening. you have to tell her that you like her but you just don't need so much company.
IF SHES REALLY YOUR FRIEND... She should understand a direct, simple, %26amp; honest comment. You might try something like ';Just because it's convienent for you to stop in, doesn't mean it's convenient for me to visit with you';, and ';in the future you need to call in advance';. You owe no explainations - it is your house. Regain the control of your own home, say what you mean and mean what you say and stand by it. DO NOT feel guilty for telling her. It's not what you say but how you say it. Good Luck.
For getting guests to leave, try this ';It is time for you to go.';





When guests ahow up uninvited, and you choose not to have them say. ';Come back at another time, perhaps when we both agree in advance.';





If they are sincere they will not be offended by your directness. On the other hand, any neighbors who would ignore your wishes stated this way are not guests. They are interlopers and taking advantage of you.





This is your house. Master your domain.
Say, ';Hey, it's late. You should be getting home now.';


or if that doesn't work, just lay it on thick: ';Please leave now.';





If all else fail, do it vice versa! Hang at her house 24/7!!!
I relize that you can not pretend like u're home. BUT... the next time she comes over u could go out somewhere. A soon as she rings that bell open the door and make up an excuse to go somewhere. You could also try to ssit her down n talk to her about it or do the same she does to you. You could also try n fit into the conversation that u don't like guests to come unannounced maybe then she'll get a better hint. Tell me how it goes..