A friend with drug problems wants to get pregnant....advice?

She is 23 and has been with her fiance for 4 years. Both smoke heavy and both do morphine pills. They were doing crack but she stopped because she thought she had died and come back after hitting too high a dose. She also does marajuana (sp?).


Now the two of them have decided to start trying for a baby. She has asked my opinion and I told her to quit it all, because a child deserves the best start. She is a little mad at me but says she will stop everything when she gets pregnant and there's no reason to stop before. I wonder if she can even have kids with him since they have never used protection in the 4 years they have been together.A friend with drug problems wants to get pregnant....advice?
If she can't stop before pregnancy - what makes her think that she will be able to when/if she becomes pregnant? Addiction is more than just ';choosing'; to quit - along with physical withdrawls, there are physical and psychological addictions as well - especially with nicotine, THC (in marijuana) and Opiates (in morphine). They are hard drugs to quit - and she may require professional help to do it. I think you're right - she needs to quit before she tries to get pregnant.A friend with drug problems wants to get pregnant....advice?
I am a firm believer that God loves children, so maybe he's helping them out. Most women do not know they are pregnant until the are 6 weeks and up. The heavy drugs she is doing now can have severe effects on the child in early stages of development. Her attitude within it's self is a pretty good indicator that she isn't ready to be a parent. Common sense: Stop the drugs. Stop abusing yourself. And they have no right to abuse a helpless child. So what if she is mad at you. You did the right thing!
Tell her if she wants to suffer miscarriage, a child w/ developmental problems, one w/ deformities, mental retardation or even a stillborn to continue on the way she is. Anyone who would make such an irresponsible decision must be entirely ignorant.
Your friend and or her fiance may not be able to have kids, as you say. But what if she gets pregnant? Is he going to stop doing drugs? Does she realize that the way you live has an enormous impact on children. Babies can get sick from inhaling second-hand smoke and have life-long breathing problems. If this couple does illegal drugs, what makes them think that they are fit to be parents???





If she does get pregnant, are you going to call social services if she starts doing drugs again? Who is going to look out for that baby when they are high? What happens when the mother is tired and the father passes out from taking morphine?





My aunt adopted a baby (my cousin) and raised her. Turns out the mother drank and did drugs while she was pregnant. My cousin is now in her early 20s, has serious psychological problems, is addicted to crack, and has never had a job in her life. Her siblings are completely normal.





If she is serious about having a child, she should want to stop taking drugs for the health of her baby. How will she know the moment she gets pregnant??? Please, please try to convice them to get a pet instead. I cannot stress to you how dangerous this situation could be for a baby.
oh boy . take her to the local group home for the mentally retarded and let her see the people there because at the very best she might end up with a retarded deformed baby
drugs cause miscarriage and stillbirth and birth defects. Not to mention that they do drug test newborns, and if they test positive, she will be reported to the proper authorities. Crackheads won't make very good parents anyway. What do you you think they would choose to do--diapers or a fix?
If they truly want a kid, she needs to stop before she tries. But in all honesty, I dont think they should try, because even if she stays clean while pregnant, nothing is to say she will stay that way after the baby is born and no child deserves to be raised in that type of enviroment.
I don't know what to say but I feel sorry for any kids your friend might have...unless she does a LOT of growing up before having them.