I sometimes wish my parents would get divorced..any advice to maake me more normal?

I know how horrible that is. I really do, and I also know that divorce breaks people, and that I am incredibly lucky to have both mom and dad. BUT, i have never gotten on with my mother, I do not like her and i would go as far as saying I hated her, even when we were getting along. However i had a great relationship with my dad until my mom got all upset that we spent too much time together. I rarely see my dad but when i do i get on with him. I wish they would get divorced so I didn't have to see my mom. Please can you tell me how i can think normally or how i can overcome this want? I know its awful thats why i want to change!I sometimes wish my parents would get divorced..any advice to maake me more normal?
First of all, it's not your decision to make, it's your dad's. Divorce is something that should be avoided at all costs, only used as a last resort. Right now it sounds like your mom is craving attention from your dad and is upset that he's giving it to you. I think its great that you and your dad have such a close relationship, but remember that mom needs attention too, and its she's probably not holding it against you, just wishing she had more. Maybe you could try to include mum in some of the activities that you and dad do together. Anyway. it sounds like you are living at home, and one day you will leave and your dad will have more time to spend with your mom. When you do leave you will probably have a better relationship with your mom because you wont be around her as much and the time you spend together will be more appreciated. Good luck.I sometimes wish my parents would get divorced..any advice to maake me more normal?
Theres actually times when i feel the same way. you should just talk to ur dad about this and maybe later talk with ur mom and then all three of u and just see if u can work things out.
I suggest honestly, you attempt to quit being self-centered and selfish. So you have it rough, join the world. You are right, its terrible for you to wish bad upon other people (your parents) in order to make your universe better. And, I guarantee you that no matter what, you world will never be perfect. We always have bumps in the road to overcome, that's part of life.





As a suggestion, I suggest you, at the earliest time possible, get off on your own. Pay for your own place to live, your own food, your own furniture, you're own internet and your own computer and your own clothes and your own transportation and when your are self sufficient you can construct your world in any way, shape or form you'd like. Until then, you have very little options but to make the best of it, or run away. I don't suggest, however, that you run away, that will only make things worse for you.





I know you are sincere and that it wasn't easy for you to write your question. But I want to assure you that you need to either deal with it, talk to your mom, or talk to a counselor. You may be looking for some magic solution that does not exist.





I'm not trying to put you down, but I think if you wake up and realize that you're not the most important person in this universe, they you'll accept the reality you are in. Some people call what you feel the Paris Hilton complex, where nothing matters except what you want. Well, let me say that even Paris Hilton is aware that she too has to face reality and perhaps spend some days in jail. Please don't be another Paris Hilton?
Your mom is probably always on your back and your dad i'm guessing let's you do basically whatever you want. You'll get past it. Don't try to sabotage your parents marriage though because you'll regret it.
feel the same way about my dad but they're divorced and it dosen't change anything cause i have to go for there for the weekend every fortnight and i hate it
Here are some choices for you:


1. Tell your dad about this. He may be able to help you are get help for you. On the other hand, your dad might get upset.


2. Give your mom some more time. Go out to dinner.


3. This might be one of the stupidest suggestions EVER. Try to stay away from your mom. By doing this you could let your anger for her out.


I don't know anything about what has gone on the last couple of years between you and her, but maybe this can help. I'm sorry if this answer is no use to you.
You want a change then start finding avenues to love your mother and not hate her. You wanting to see a divorce is not the answer, she brought you here. Your reason is not detailed enough why you dislike mom. Talk it over with your dad as he may have a solution to your problem. think normal hoping for a change for the better. So get that relationship with your mother and be happy.
Depends on your age and how you see your father in your mind. Your mother and yourself may need counseling. Your father is in a rather touchy position.