Can i get some advice?

I have moved in with my father so that i could get my life together and finish going to school.I am 23yrs old and already have a 6yr old. I've only stayed with him for about a month and with in this month i have miscarriaged, had surgery, and gotten into it with his girlfriend. So at this moment i'm so confused, he doesn't want me to leave but I want to leave and stay.we were trying to heal old wounds, we haven't been around each other in about 15 yrs, so i know things are going to be a little different. i felt that i needed my dad at this period in my life. But i don't want to continue gettin into it with his girlfriend, feeling that there has to be competition or my father feeling i messed his relationship up. She is 34 with no job and drinks from sun up to sun down, and my dad is 50 and in the army.There is no peace and unity in this house. I'm so scared that i'm going to make the wrong decision. please some one help me. this is so much to mentally and emotionally to handle.Can i get some advice?
plain and simple...you need to find another place to live...sorry!Can i get some advice?
U r a threat to her i would stay and help your father to see that she is sucking him dry.Then your relationship with your dad will blossom.
Is your dad blind? You should be more important to him than some drunk woman. He needs to get rid of her. TALK to him about her %26amp; how you feel. You should be his number one.
wanting support from your father is not wrong it's understandable but ask yourself.. is the support you are getting from him being overshadowed by his girlfriend getting on your nerves? is she a bad influence for your kid? how is your 6 year old's relationship with your dad? if you are feeling more stress than anything maybe you need to consider some other place to live...





if you do decide to stay.. did you TRY knowing her? you do know that drinking usually sprouts from SOME reason or another.. try to know the woman... let her know that you know she makes your dad happy and you are happy for them.. just try not to come across as fake when you do so...





doesn't work? tried that? then talk to your father... tell him you know he is happy with this woman.. but if he could try and work with her on her drinking issue... and ask her to back off if she is bothering you... try arranging a activity for all of you together... some trip.. in IL we have the botanical gardens.. beautiful place for all ages.. pick something that EVERYONE will enjoy...





best of luck..
Ur asking the wrong question, the real question is what鈥檚 best for my kid? If staying at the house is best for your kid than you have to put your bad feelings aside.
Does the girlfriend live there too? Does your father know about the alcoholism? Do you have somewhere else to go (and still be able to continue school)? If she doesn't live there, try to stay clear of her and definitely keep your 6 year old away from her influence. If she does, you'll have to have a talk with your father; let him know that you really want this opportunity to get to know him better, but you also think the gf is a bad influence and don't know what to do. Finishing school is an important part of getting your life together, but it will be difficult if you're in a dysfunctional environment. If it were just you, I'd say stay out of her way and try not to get into it. However, if you think this environment is in anyway dangerous to your child, and you can find a better alternative, take it (but do try to stay in touch with your dad - he seems to care about you and want to have a relationship with you).
Hi!I guess it will be difficult for u to study in the evenings with that woman in the house.


Can u afford to get your own place?It would be better for you,and then your father can come and visit you instead.
Stop focusing on his girlfriend and what she does wrong. If your dad loves her, then you need to accept her and focus on healing your relationship with him.
sorry to hear about the events of this past month...your focus needs to be with your 6yr old.
just love your dad and talk 2 him and love you rlittlegurl
Sit down with your dad and talk to him, the alcoholic needs to go before she hurts you or your 6 year old or your dad.. Otherwise tell your dad your gonna go for the safety of your child. Hopefully he'll understand. If you are on post, go talk to the battallion chaplin, he might have some answers for you