I just read an article in';American Baby'; with some ideas that might help.
1.Take the pacifier to ';Build-A-Bear'; and your child can make his very own ';Binky Bear.'; Have your son place the pacifier inside before they stich the bear up.
2. Tell him about the ';Binky Fair.'; Before he goes to bed, he can gather up all his binkies for the fairy, and the next morning he will find a new toy from the ';Binky Fairy.';
3. Gradually cut the tip off the pacifier. After a week or two, all of the suction will be gone and the child will loose interest.Any advice on getting rid of the pacifier?
My daughter put her dummies out for the 'dummy fairy' in a special bag, and in the morning the dummy fairy had come and taken them away, and had left her a special gift for her.
An extra special touch is to sprinkle some 'fairy dust' (glitter) in a trail on the ground..makes it quite a magical experience.
This scheme worked beautifully! And when she was missing her dummies, we reminded her that we were so proud of her, and so was the dummy fairy! :)
IT'S BEEN TIME TO GET RID OF IT. THE OLDER HE GETS IT MAYBE HARDER FOR HIM TO LET GO BECAUSE HE IS USE TO IT. THE AGE HE SHOULD HAVE GOT RID OF IT IS BEFORE 1 YEARS OLD. WHAT I CAN TELL YOU NOW IS TO TAKE IT AWAY STEP BY STEP. STOP GIVING IT TO HIM AT NAP TIME. NO MATTER HOW MUCH HE CRY FOR IT DO NOT GIVE IT TO HIM. THEN ONCE YOU HAVE DONE THAT TAKE IT AWAY AT BED TIME ONCE AGAIN LET HIM CRY HE WILL GET OVER IT. THAT'S THE ONLY WAY I KNOW BECAUSE YOU WAITED TO LONG TO TAKE IT AWAY. I HAD IT EASY MY DAUGHTER NEVER SUCKED ON ONE. SHE ALWAYS WAS A BOTTLE BABY.
It comforts him, so there is no easy way, so just take it away.
having the dentist tell my son it was time to get rid of the pacifier worked like a charm for us. the pediatrician told my sister when she was 2 that the she was to big and wasn't allowed to use it and she gave it up easily too.
it is amazing the influence a doctor can have on a child. :)
since you have weaned it down to just sleeping times i would probably start talking about when you are going to give it up. maybe on his birthday or when the Easter Bunny comes he is going to bring you some big boy prizes which means that you can't have your pacifier anymore. let him be prepared that it is coming so it isn't a shock. when it is time make it clear that no more pacifier. he isn't allowed to have it anymore because he is now almost 3. he'll understand. do it cold turkey. throw them out of the house so you aren't tempted to give in. having it around to see it is torture to a child. be able to open the cabinets and say, ';No binky here, none under the bed, not in my purse...';
If you are nervous about it you could take it away at nap times first. Crying during nap is easier to handle then at night when you are all exhausted. If you see that he can soothe himself to sleep without the pacifier during the day then you'll know that he'll be perfectly fine at night.
Good Luck. SD
This worked for me
Wait until you see him drop it on the floor and as soon as he does tell him that it is yucky and make HIM throw it away. Later when he asks for it remind him about how he threw it away and that it is all gone. I did this with my son and after about two days he didn't even ask for it anymore.
Once he's asleep, take all his paci's and cut off the nipple part. Then just put them back where they were. In the morning, when he reaches for it, he will wonder what happened and question it. Tell him that they broke. Act like ';OH my, the paci's broke! We can't fix them';. He'll ask for them often and probably carry the broken ones, but after a few days he won't miss them.
This worked brilliantly with my son. We did it cold turkey, and didn't give him any at night either. He may wake up the first couple of nights, but will be okay soon after. I know it's hard, but it's worth it.
According to my mother, we had several 'binkies' around the house. SHe got tired of us using them at all times of the day and night. She had us, me and my twin sister, gather them all up and put them in a bag and take them to the post office. She told us that there was a bad storm overseas and none of those children had binkies so we was going to send them ours. We was so willing to help we even threw the ones right out of mouths in the bag. She wrote a note telling the postmaster to ';throw this away when i leave'; and put it on the box. We thought we were so great for helping others. Becuase we were so kind we got to go to the store and get a new toy. Not for being big girls and giving up our binkies, but for wanting to help other children. This lesson in life has really taugh me alot, Im so giving and caring it isnt even funny. Way to go Mom!
-Start Gradually
Start with only giving her a pacifier at nap or bed times to soothe herself to sleep. Tell her that her pacifier is only for sleepy time. Gradually work the pacifier out of the naptime routines, until she is only using it to sleep at night. Eventually “lose” the pacifier for bedtime. Your toddler should adjust within a couple of days.
-Substitute Other Toys
If your child won’t give up the pacifier, have her trade it in for another toy or a special activity. At night, give your toddler a stuffed animal or special blanket instead of the pacifier for comfort.
-Peer Pressure
Keep your toddler playing with other children so that she models her behavior from them. (Choose non-pacifier sucking playmates)
-Rewards
Try a Reward Chart and give her stickers for getting through the day without her pacifier, if she is old enough to understand this. Give her lots of hugs, kisses, and “I’m proud of you”s.
-Be Consistent
Do not give in to your toddler through a tantrum or bedtime crying. If you eventually give in and give her the pacifier, she will become confused. Stick to your guns and she will come around.
I told my son that binkys were for babies and that he was a big boy. He looked at me and said ok. That was the last time he asked for 1 unless he was sick.
i had 4 kids I found the best tip is to let them throw it in the trash or out a window. Then they will forget about it in 2 days.
Tell him the binkie fairy needs binkies for the newborns and other babies out there. Together--gather all the binkies up in a bag. Tie them to a tree out side or sit them somewhere out side some evening. Tell him the binkie fairy will bring him something for the binkies. A gift. (get him a gift) The next morning, take him out to see what the binkie fairy got for him. Make sure you did something with the binkies. He will be so excited and also pleased with himself that he has helped other babies who need those binkies.
if you dip it in something nasty but safe for them like something with a sour taste they are sure to put that thing down for good.
If he's alread down to night and nap, all you can do is take it away. I mean, what else is left? You can offer him a prize, the cost of which is his pacifier, or you can tell him the paci fairy will come and leave him a toy if he puts it under his pillow, etc etc etc, but I am a fan of cold turkey personally. We took our daugther's away on her birthday and it was no big deal.
I had my two year old down to just having the pacifier at naptime and nighttime, and we had discussed that at a certain point, we would get rid of all pacifiers. We made it a big deal (acting as if it was really exciting to be a big girl, etc.) and we pulled out the trash can and threw them all away. Get rid of them so you won't be tempted to give them back. I also did this at the end of the week when I was not working so that we could allow for slow adjusting. After a few days, she didn't miss her pacifiers at all.
Why would you want to have your child give up something that is a source of comfort for him? I say leave him alone...when he is ready he will give it up. My daughter gave her's up on her own before she was three . If he doesn't it's really no big deal, They don't do naps in school so he won't have it there and who is he hurting by having it at bedtime?
Start telling him that he doesnt need it to sleep. then take him to do ';big boy'; activities if he looses it for a nap. Or take his favorite caracter from a movie or show and show him that they dont use a passy. Just try to motivate him from a baby to a big boy.
Let nature takes its course. No point forcing. In time he'll grow out of it. No kids takes pacifier to school!
This is what worked for me, I cut the top of the soother, and so, when my daughter put it in her mouth, it was weird and not the same, and she just took out of her mouth and threw it on the floor, and started crying, and she would ask me for it, then I am like, you want it, here you go, take it, and she would not like it because of the whole in the middle.....
This may sound abrupt, but throw it away. It won't take long for him to get used to it. He will be fine. The bigger deal you make of this, the bigger he will think it is. Tell him he is a big boy and he doesn't need it anymore. You may have to suffer through the crankiness for a few days but it will be over very quickly this way. And don't give in and buy a new one if things get tough. Stick with it, he will be fine (unless he is a special needs child who has extreme difficulty with transitions, then I would talk to a professional, not someone on Yahoo)
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